January 14, 2010
In Marshall Goldsmith book Mojo: How to Get It, How to Keep It, How to Get It Back If You Lose It he explains it in a way that clarifies my point:
"When my children grow up, I want them to be..."
I have asked thousands of parents from around the world to give me one word to complete this sentence.
No matter what country I am in, one word is spoken more than every other word combined.
What is that one word?
do you want your children to be happy? Do you want your parents to be happy? Do you want the people who love you at home to be happy? Do you want the people who respect you at work to by happy?
You go first.
You be happy.
The people who love you want you to be happy.
Mojo is - that positive spirit - toward what you are doing - that starts from the inside - and radiates to the outside.
Do you want the people that you love and respect to have Mojo?
Show them yours!
There are good people out there who look up to us. They respect us. They want to be like us. We are role models for them.
What message do we send to the people we love at home when we communicate that we are unhappy and that our lives at home are meaningless?
Being with you does not bring me joy and my life at home really doesn't matter that much to me.
What message do we send to the people who we respect at work when we communicate that we are unhappy and that our jobs are meaningless?
I wish I were not here today. I would rather be doing almost anything than working with you or in this company.
On the other hand, what message do we send to the people - at work and home - when our Mojo is high?
I find joy in my life when I am with you. Being with you - in this home or in this workplace - matters to me. You are important and what I am doing with you is important.
Is there any better message that we can communicate to the people who trust us, respect us, and love us?
I can't think of one.
My goal in writing this book is, in some small way, to try to help you have a happier and more meaningful life. By doing this, you will help the wonderful people in your life find more happiness and meaning.
Don't just do it for you.
Do it for them!"
Happiness isn't just spread by doing good deeds, but in how we communicate and interact with others. Think about what Goldsmith says, and check out the rest of the book. Imagine working somewhere where everyone understood this stuff!
About Dylan Schleicher
Dylan Schleicher has been a part of the 800-CEO-READ claque since 2003. Even though he's stayed on at the company, he has not stayed put. After beginning in shipping & receiving, he joined customer service and accounting before moving into his current, highly elliptical orbit of duties overseeing the ChangeThis and In the Books websites, the company's annual review of books and in-house design. He lives with his wife and two children in the Washington Heights neighborhood on Milwaukee's West Side.