October 13, 2005
Excerpts: Resonant Leadership - Part III
As we have seen, the Sacrifice Syndrome can be insidious, and it is sometimes hard to tell we are slipping into it until we are caught. If we are vigilant, however, we can see signs that we are heading in the wrong direction, before it becomes a problem. Check the following list. Many of these clues can help you determine if you are heading in the wrong direction, so you can catch yourself before you slide into dissonance.
- Working harder with less result?
- Getting home later or leaving home earlier each day?
- Feeling tired, even after sleeping?
- Having trouble falling asleep, or waking up in the middle of the night?
- Finding less time (or no time at all) for the things that used to be enjoyable?
- Rarely relaxed, or only really relaxed with alcohol?
- Drinking more coffee?
Have I noticed changes in myself or my relationships, such as:
- I can no longer really talk about my problems with my spouse.
- I dont care what I eat, or whether I eat too much or too little.
- I cant remember the last time I had a long conversation with a trusted friend or family member.
- My children have stopped asking me to attend their functions or games.
- I no longer attend my place of worship or find time for quiet contemplation.
- I dont exercise as much as I used to.
- I dont smile or laugh as much as I used to.
- Have frequent headaches, backaches or pain?
- Routinely take over-the-counter antacids or painkillers?
- Feel as if nothing I do seems to matter anymore, or have the impact I want?
- Feel as if no one can understand what I need to do, or how much work I have?
- Sometimes feel numb or react to situations with inappropriately strong emotions?
- Feel too overwhelmed to see new experiences, ideas or ways of doing things?
- Frequently think about how to escape my current situation?
About Dylan Schleicher
Dylan Schleicher has been a part of the 800-CEO-READ claque since 2003. Even though he's stayed on at the company, he has not stayed put. After beginning in shipping & receiving, he joined customer service and accounting before moving into his current, highly elliptical orbit of duties overseeing the ChangeThis and In the Books websites, the company's annual review of books and in-house design. He lives with his wife and two children in the Washington Heights neighborhood on Milwaukee's West Side.